Basic Practical 4
Full Demo Exchange
PC = Person Helping
PBC = Person Being Helped
PC: are you ready for a basic exchange in class
PBC: Thought for 5s
Yes.
I’ll stay in basic exchange mode:
L9–L11 only.
Short responses.
Use your words when possible.
No interpretation unless invited.
Pause/pace implied.
Let the form emerge from the opening. Start when ready.
PC: are you afraid of something?
PBC: Afraid?
Maybe of making this more complicated than it needs to be.
PC: WI?
PBC: Thought for 8s
What’s important?
Keeping the exchange basic enough that the fear does not become the lesson too soon.
PC: and if you did?
PBC: Thought for 6s
If I did, I might start explaining fear instead of staying with it.
That would make the exchange too much about my interpretation.
PC: Well isn’t your interpretation as PBH important?
PBC: Thought for 5s
Yes.
My interpretation as the PBH is important.
But it is still my interpretation, not necessarily the whole truth.
So maybe the basic move is:
“Important, but not final?”
PC: can we go back to something you said earlier…
PBC: Thought for a couple of seconds
Earlier?
PC: oh you know?
PBC: Thought for a couple of seconds
Not know
I only heard “earlier” and stayed with that word.
PC: no worries let’s come back again later, thanks for playing
PBC: Good basic exchange.
The clean teaching point is:
“Earlier?” was a small exact-word cue.
It did not assume I knew what you meant.
When you tested it with “oh you know?”, the correction was:
“Not know. I only heard ‘earlier’ and stayed with that word.”
That is useful for Class 4 or the next AAR because it shows the difference between:
staying with a word
and
claiming understanding
That distinction is basic, but important.
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